Posts Tagged ‘Parkinson’s’

Dislodging Trapped Emotions for Caregivers

Wednesday, October 26th, 2011

 

Trapped Emotions:

How They Get Lodged in Your Body and How To Get them Out!

Betty L. Smith

 

Find out how toxic emotions get trapped in your body in the first place and five steps to release toxins and open the way to self-healing: a special perspective just for family caregivers and their loved ones.

Since early spring 2011, I have been releasing trapped emotions on my husband who has Parkinson’s and on myself as his primary family caregiver. So far, using the methodologies outlined by Dr. Bradley Nelson in The Emotion Code, I have released about 2000 trapped emotions on each of us. There are still many more to go!

Toxic Results from the “Good Person” Code

I am convinced that people of our generation have a higher-than-usual number of trapped emotions. Why? We were trained from early ages to follow the code of “good” people. When we were growing up, for example, children were to be “seen and not heard.”

My husband always said that it was better not to say anything, never to speak from his true feelings in his family, because, he said, “If you speak from your genuine feelings, you just made things worse for yourself anyway.” So as a generation, we learned to swallow our emotions and numb out our feelings.

Especially when repressing anger, a powerful emotion, we end up cutting off the other emotions in the process. Censoring anger censors every other emotional expression. My father used to tell me, when I was expressing anger, “There’s enough hurt in the world already, without you adding to it.” So I learned to shut up and numb out my feelings instead of expressing them.

No Place To Express Your Genuine Feelings

We grew up with what I’ve called “life negating communications.” This is the opposite of what Marshall Rosenberg calls “Non-Violent Communication” in the book of the same name.

We literally have no place where we can safely express our true feelings. Tej Steiner, founder of Heart Circles, highlights this problem when he observes that there is no place that people can express their genuine feelings — not at home, with family, at school, work. I have observed that if it hadn’t been for psychotherapy that became available in the 20th century, we would still not have a place to share our genuine feelings!

How we talk to each other — when speaking in the sanctioned “good person” model, not allowing for the sharing of our genuine feelings, when the listening is done with judgment and not with acceptance, when expressing an emotion makes a person “Wrong” in the listener’s opinion — all of these contribute to an epidemic of toxic, life-negating communications.

Feelings Buried Alive…The Roots of our Illnesses

What happens when we do not express our genuine feelings? Well, they don’t come out our mouth, do they? So where do they go?   Our feelings, unexpressed, turn in on us. They become the trapped emotions that are held in places in our bodies for a lifetime. Those trapped emotions then cause pain and aches in our bodies as they age and leave us vulnerable to diseases, especially the degenerative aging diseases.

Even when there’s an intent to speak in life affirming communication (non-violent communication), if both parties are not fully engaged with this endeavor, then it can turn out just as life-negating as most of our conversations that mask our genuine feelings. I know I’ve been through this recently with someone. I wanted to speak in genuine life-affirming communications, but everything seemed to go wrong.  All I can say is, old toxic habits of communicating die hard.

I’ve concluded that one of the sources of these trapped emotions comes from our life-negating communication patterns and not speaking from our genuine feelings. We’ve been trained not to speak our genuine feelings for a lifetime.

Encouraging Your Miracle Body to Self-Heal

One of the most important ways to shift the energies from toxic to healing is by introducing practices where we learn to love, honor, and respect ourselves unconditionally — exactly the way we are right now. Loving yourself unconditionally is a powerful approach for sidestepping these toxic trapped emotions that seem to be at the root cause of disease.

Moving forward, I am taking my own advice, focusing on one day at a time and acknowledging to myself that “I’m OK in this moment.”

5-Steps to Health, Wellness, and Personal Well-Being

Below, you’ll find my 5-Step Recipe for opening the way and encouraging the body to repair itself without all the stress:

1 *Maintain that present moment focus.

2 *Release trapped emotions using the Emotion Code process.

3 *Speak with life affirming communications.

4 *Speak from your genuine feelings — so you don’t reintroduce trapped negative emotions you’ve just released.

5 *Make a regular practice of loving yourself unconditionally — accepting, honoring, and acknowledging yourself for who you are right in the moment.

Know that there are many paths to self-healing. It’s important that you find one that resonates with you. As someone who has been pioneering changes on the cutting edge my whole life, I encourage you to connect with the perfect people, those from whom you get a good feeling. Trusting your intuition about what will  be most perfect for you in any given moment — the connections, information, people who come your way — opens the door so that your health, wellness and personal well-being can shine!

Please contact me at bsetnow(at)sonic(dot) net to schedule a conversation about your personal well-being and how to feel better.

 

 

 

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Release Trapped Toxic Emotions

Tuesday, September 13th, 2011

Author Betty L. Smith Speaks Out about Releasing Trapped Emotions

In the spring of 2002 my husband, Gilbert Smith, went from being a middle-aged man to an old man in a few short weeks. In June of that year, we became members of EMC2AIM which is a quantum physics modality that raises your Life Force to 100.  When life force flows through every cell of the body, we stay healthier longer. Ultimately, it slows the aging process.  Gil’s aging immediately returned to normal speed. However the following year, he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s.

At the time he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s, he said, “I want to heal myself and speak out about how I did it.”  The allopathic Western medical system has no answers for Parkinson’s.  There is no medical test that can be given that verifies you have Parkinson’s. The doctor makes the diagnosis by watching how you move and walk.

Over the years, we explored all kinds of alternative healing modalities. They slowed his Parkinson’s symptoms.  However, in August 2009 Gil went into the Golden Living Convalescent Home in stage four Parkinson’s.

In the spring 2011, we finally hit pay dirt in finding a process that activates our natural ability to heal.  Dr. Bruce Lipton, a cell biologist by training from the University of Wisconsin’s School of Medicine and later performed pioneering research at Stanford University, was a featured expert in the movie, The Living Matrix: A Film On The New Science of Healing. Lipton observed that studies show one third of all healing occurs through the placebo effect, yet M.D.s-in-training spend just 15 minutes studying the placebo effect.

In Spring 2011, I heard an interview with alternative practitioner, Dr. Bradley Nelson, speaking on The Emotion Code.  The Emotion Code is a system uncovered by Nelson that quickly releases negative trapped emotions.  Alternative healers have known for decades that trapped negative feelings and emotions play havoc with our health and well-being especially as we age.   For example, in 1991 Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman was published. However no one to date has come up with a quick, easy way to release these trapped negative emotions until Dr. Bradley Nelson developed The Emotion Code.

Dr. Bradley Nelson had materials available to teach people how to use the process. I immediately ordered the information on The Emotion Code, started learning, testing it on myself at first.

On one particular visit to see Gil, I found he couldn’t move in bed. His left groin hurt so badly, he could not move — much less get out of bed.  I did The Emotion Code technique on him releasing negative trapped emotions in his groin. The pain immediately left. He got out of bed and with his walker walked half way down the hallway.  The next day I went back and released the negative trapped emotions in his right groin. After that, he went back to walking all four hallways again.

Over the past five months, I have been working with him almost daily, releasing negative trapped emotions in his body either in person or by proxy. He is now speaking better; his drooling has all but stopped; his shaking is greatly minimized; and he is beginning to stand taller and straighter.

Both he and I are feeling that if he had done The Emotion Code when he was initially diagnosed with Parkinson’s, he would not be where he has been these last two years.

As I released all these trapped negative emotions, I also found out when he first felt them and discovered the following pattern.  Many of the negative trapped emotions he formed from birth up to twenty years of age became inactive throughout adulthood.  Then around age 74, about the time he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s, they became active again.

Statistics are showing that often Family Caregivers die before the loved ones they are caring for.
In doing The Emotion Code on myself, I found the above pattern applied to me also.  Many negative trapped emotions I had formed as a child became active again when I was plunged into family caregiving (with my mother who has been at death’s door for three years and Gil in the last two years being in the last stages of Parkinson’s.)

I encourage all Family Caregivers to learn and practice The Emotion Code, both to benefit yourself as caregiver and for your loved ones.  To learn more, feel free to send me an email at bsetnow(at)sonic(dot)net. You can read other articles about alternative health, wellness, and personal well-being at my web site, http://www.authorBettyLSmith.com.

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To Heal Yourself, Start Where You Are

Thursday, July 14th, 2011

Start Where You Are In Healing Yourself, Healing Mother Earth

My intent is to offer Baby Boomers, caregivers, and elders who are open to alternative approaches (those who call themselves Cultural Creatives) a clear path to raising their consciousness and being their own authority around health and healing issues.

For more than three months, I have been practicing the Emotion Code, created by Dr. Bradley Nelson. Both my husband, Gil, who has Parkinson’s, and I have benefited. I am learning that we can only take the next right step by standing firmly rooted in the present moment.

As I coach and offer these gifts of learning in several processes of self-healing, I have to stand right in the present moment myself.

What is right here in the present moment?

Recently, I reported that I had been releasing the old trapped, toxic emotions I’d experienced from a young age.  Combined, Gil and I have many hundreds of trapped emotions!

These emotions had been trapped for most of my life — since I was a very young child. During my growing up years, it was unsafe to express some of these things. That meant they were buried before I had a chance to get in trouble by expressing those feelings.

A few years ago, I processed deep unexpressed grief I had as a 4-year-old when we moved from one home and left my dog behind. I’ve also learned, for example, that my husband was an unwanted baby. His trapped emotions from the time of conception number more than 140.

What it means now: As I release these very old negative feelings I buried from particular ages or stages of growing up, I often get very tired after a session of releasing.  I’ve learned, in working with Gil, that I can only release a few emotions at a time during a session with him so that he can deal with all the internal processing and not be completely wrung out for several days.

I’ve also discovered that allowing the negative feelings to come up and be released always feels good in the long term. And sometimes in the short term, I feel emotionally down because of the detox my system is going through.

My Big Picture Intent

My work as health and well being coach is unfolding as my part of the contribution to the community and movement of business and wellness practitioners who are raising planetary consciousness. Our overall intent is to heal Mother Earth by developing the building blocks for a healing civilization so that all sentient life and the planet herself can live in peace and harmony.

We can’t do it alone. We need each other in communities of like-minded and like-hearted others. I invite you to join with me.  Become part of this global healing community by saying yes to health and well being by signing up at  http://www.authorbettylsmith.com. (It’s the box in the upper right hand of the page.)

 

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Your Health and Well-Being Enhanced with The Emotion Code

Wednesday, June 22nd, 2011

When I started my personal life coaching practice in 1988, I focused my work around my clients’ negative beliefs and emotions and the impact those beliefs and emotions have in our daily lives and on our health. I discussed this in depth in my book, The Power to Change. What I have come to discover is that those early-formed negative and toxic beliefs ultimately have a profound impact on our health in our elder years.

Since 1988, my coaching practice has addressed health and well being at all ages. Now that I am well into the best half of life, with a husband suffering from Parkinson’s, I have been focusing on ways to mitigate the symptoms of Parkinson’s without drugs, to find and share methods to relieve the aches and pains of aging, all while helping family caregivers take care of themselves and their loved ones.

For many, during adulthood years through midlife, the symptoms and pains of our toxic growing up experiences seem to disappear, only to reappear in our 60s, 70s and beyond. Is there still time to release all that old baggage? In the past few months, I’ve come across a process that offers great relief to suffering and pain, and I have been incorporating it into my life coaching practice.

The Emotion Code Process

Starting in March 2011, I have added The Emotion Code technique to my personal life coaching practice. Dr. Bradley Nelson is the founder of the Emotion Code process. He has authored the book, The Emotion Code and has created courses that teach people how to help themselves and loved ones to release emotions that cause pain in the body.

My husband was in stage four of Parkinson’s as I started practicing with The Emotion Code. Visiting my husband in the convalescent home, I was able to help him with physical pain. The pain was so intense in his left groin that he was unable to move or get out of bed. I used the Emotion Code process on him. He released the feelings of abandonment that had started at conception.  As soon as this feeling was released, he felt better. He was able to stand up and walk half way down the hall.

The next day, when I returned, we did the process on the other side.  He was able to walk all four hallways, which he hadn’t done for several months.  I have been going through the Emotion Code process with him for a little over two months now. He is standing taller. His drooling has nearly disappeared. It’s about 95-99% cleared, disappearing for days, then occasionally reappears when he is very nervous. (Drooling is a symptom of the later stages of Parkinson’s.)

I am discovering that many of the negative perceptions he formed about himself from conception to age 20 seemed to go inactive from age 20 to 73. These negative perceptions returned full force again when he was 74.  My observation is: the older he got, the more negative perceptions from those very early years became active and expressed themselves in the disease called Parkinson’s.

Over the past few years, my coaching focus has been to reach out to those in the Parkinson’s community, both the person who has Parkinson’s and the family caregiver.  As I’ve added The Emotion Code process to my practice, I have discovered that when our body is out of balance due to trapped negative energy, it opens the way to many diseases.

Using the tools and process of The Emotion Code, it is not so much about the specific pain or disease you have. Rather, it brings forward the intent, desire and mindset to activate your natural ability to heal yourself and experience complete well-being. Health and Well Being as you age?

I agree with Dr. Nelson when he says,  “Much of our suffering is due to negative emotional energies that have become ‘trapped’ within us. The Emotion Code is a simple and powerful method of finding and releasing these trapped emotions.”

Doing the release work with The Emotion Code is an ideal precursor to installing new, healthier beliefs and attitudes. One of the best ways to install the new beliefs is using the energy psychology method called Psychological-Kinesiology created by Rob Williams. This was among the earliest trainings I took, and where I learned how to create positive beliefs that the subconscious mind can accept. Any belief the subconscious accepts will come to pass in our life.

When we are in balance both structurally and emotionally, we can flourish with health and well being.  When we have imbalance in our body structurally and/or emotionally, we open ourselves up to disease.

Dr. Bradley Nelson’s book, The Emotion Code, helps identify the trapped emotions that are a significant yet hidden cause of much illness and suffering. Please contact me at bsetnow(at)sonic(dot)net for more information about addressing your aches and pains and starting to live with increased vitality, health, and well-being using the tools of The Emotion Code.

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Caregivers: Ingrained Perceptions May Hold Key to Degenerative Disease

Wednesday, October 13th, 2010

Have You Checked In On Your Ingrained Perceptions Lately?

(They May Hold a Key to Degenerative Disease)


Perceptions, especially protective responses to authority figures we developed at a young age, have a tremendous influence in shaping the character and experiences of our lives and our overall health.  Recent research, according to author Bruce Lipton, shows that perceptions inform the placebo effect (healing effects due to positive expectations) and nocebo effect (harmful effects due to negative expectations).  One third of all healings are from the placebo effect. I see this as part of the equation as the final frontier in creating health and well-being for Family Caregivers and our loved ones.

On the flip side, scientific research is showing that the nocebo effect is often the root cause of disease. In our early years, we form perceptions about ourselves, often based on response to an authority figure (like a parent, teacher, church leader).  Such perceptions are beliefs that permeate every cell of our bodies. Ultimately what the body expresses is what the mind has caused the body to believe.

From his cell biology research, Dr. Bruce Lipton in The Biology of Belief, shows that negative perceptions we formed about ourselves (mostly as children) and hold in our subconscious as beliefs, profoundly affect our health at the cellular level. One cell, put in a toxic environment, degenerates. When the same cell is taken out of the toxins and put into a healthy environment, it can return to health and thrive.

Early communications and cultural conditioning experiences lock into a child’s subconscious and mostly remain intact. For most children, their life-negating experiences result in feeling poorly about themselves. Over a lifetime of repetition, they are opening themselves up to disease.  Parkinson’s is a classic example of this.

One Parkinson’s patient, through energy healing, was able to feel and express the negative beliefs he had formed about himself as a child. In the session, the comments included:
I am useless.
I am not good enough.
I don’t matter.
What I say doesn’t mean anything.
Stupid me.
I am left out and not loved.
I can’t do it good enough.
I can’t do it right.
I don’t deserve.
I have to be perfect to be accepted.
It is all my fault.
I am shameful and feel guilty.

Most of us grew up in a toxic stew of negative cultural conditioning, handing over personal inner authority, and being bombarded with life negating communications. Our own health, along with the health of our loved ones we care for, are profoundly affected by these ingrained perceptions.

Name Your Taboos

In my personal growth journey, I found The Taboo Code of a good girl or woman was the reason I buried my genuine feelings, effectively creating an emotional straitjacket. This “Good Girl/Good Woman Taboo Code,” based on my experience, crosses racial, cultural, class, religious, and ethnic divides.

Here are some of the toxic taboos I grew up with:

*You are to be humble and unassuming.

*You are never to toot your own horn. That is being conceited and boastful.

*You are always to think about what other people want. Any thoughts of what you want are selfish.

* “What will the neighbors think?” It is critical to behave in such a manner that, if the neighbors know what you are doing, they will approve.

*You never speak well of yourself because that is considered bragging and is an insult to others.

*You are responsible for how other people feel regarding what you say or do.

These are the Taboo Codes I uncovered with a group of women.  I’ve asked men to tell me the taboos they grew up with. Only two men have ever given me any response. Interestingly, one of the recent responses: For men, it is taboo and seen as a weakness to appear to have (or admit to have) any mental problems. That was why my husband joined me in couples therapy — because it was “my problem.”

One of the most pernicious taboos for  family caregivers: “You are always to think about what other people want and need, especially family members. Any thoughts of what you want or need means you are being selfish.” Trying to live up to such a taboo can trap Boomer family caregivers in doing for family members to the detriment of their own health and well-being. (Remember the airlines: “Always put on your own oxygen mask first.”)

Take some time now to reflect and write out your own inner beliefs and the toxic taboo code that was ingrained in you. Which taboos can you release as no longer valid? The only thing you stand to lose is your chains.

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Appreciate Your Loved Ones — Beyond Older Americans Month

Friday, July 9th, 2010

Did you miss May’s “celebration” of Older Americans’ Month?  While May has been Older Americans Month since 1963, (The name was changed by President Carter in 1980, from Senior Citizens Month.) I’m not sure what good that does for Family Caregivers. It just reminds us that we are all getting older.  And so are our loved ones. No one likes that.

I know first-hand the heartache and stress that is involved in being a family caregiver. I have a mother, age 95 this summer, who lives in a nursing home. I have a husband who was diagnosed with Parkinson’s in 2003 and went into a convalescent home in August of 2009. What is there to celebrate?

With nearly 40 million people age 65 and over, (reportedly 38.9 million on July 1, 2008, according to the U.S. Census), it’s a good bet that there will be a lot of family caregivers in the ranks, either presently or down the road.

Based on research put together by the leaders of the November 2009 Caregivers’ Summit, (or at this link: http://caregiverstelesummit.com/blog/betty), current estimates show that 50 million of us shoulder the burden of family caregiving. Most of us shoulder the burden alone and without adequate support.

As a family caregiver, I’ve learned the importance of keeping my own interests perking along as a way to combat the stress of family caregiving. With the technologies that allow us to connect to groups of people via our computers online and by telephone, there are resources available, including communities of friends and support like Boomer-Living.com, where I am a regular contributor.

Acknowledging Mike
I’m not a techie, so for the last decade, I’ve had my own kind of “caregiver” who has been instrumental in helping me keep my own interests alive and active.  Mike, my tech guru, came to my house to help me with my computer.  Mike’s work with me was the way I like to learn technical things–in person, one-on-one, hands-on.  He was older, retired, and enjoyed helping the older people in our community with their computers so they could be productive and connected to the world.

Mike was taken ill suddenly a few months ago. I just learned that my friend and tech guru, Mike, died.

So Mike is my lesson for Older Americans Month. Not one of us is getting any younger, but that’s no reason to put bags over our heads and hope time starts running backwards. It won’t.

I want to honor and celebrate Mike. His kindness and generosity, his knowledge and tech skills, his caring and abilities have opened the door for me to participate here at my blog and at sites like Boomer-Living.com, along with other classes, coaches, and resources online. I wouldn’t be where I am without his help.

Appreciate!
May has passed, but it’s always a good time to appreciate.  I hope you will take the time from caregiving and all its stresses to simply appreciate your loved ones of all ages who will not be around forever.

Your simple mindful act of appreciating your loved ones and other important people in your life — just as they are — opens powerful healing energies. Appreciate everyone in your life — your loved ones, friends, family, neighbors and even your tech guru — not only during Older Americans Month, but every day of every month.

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Parkinson’s Caregiver Discusses Being Your Own Authority

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Author and Parkinson’s caregiver, Betty L Smith, met Dr. Kashonia Carnegie through The Soft Sell Marketers Association, an organization created by Judith Sherven, PhD and Jim Sniechowski, PhD. Kashonia, a moral and environmental philosopher who works from her home in the mountains in rural Far North Queensland in Australia, has created a community of like-minded colleagues at Raising Love Consciousness. Every month or so, she enters into conversation with her community members. The following link is an excerpt of Betty’s conversation with Kashonia in December 2009.

Betty shares her story of coming to learn how to listen to her own inner knowingness and to be her own authority, both of which are crucial skills for family caregivers who want to maintain their health and well-being.

Click the text below. It’s a link to bring up the recording so you can listen right on your computer.

Family Caregiver Betty L Smith Joins Kashonia Carnegie 12-15-2009

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Hello family caregivers!

Saturday, November 7th, 2009

Welcome to family caregivers. If you are on a lifelong healing journey for yourself or your loved one, then this site will offer some alternatives for your lifelong learning around taking care of yourself as a caregiver and exploring the last frontier in health and well-being.  My name is Betty L Smith, author of The Power to Change. I am a family caregiver to my husband with Parkinson’s and my elderly mother, along with being a lifelong learner. I look forward to sharing lessons from my healing journey with you.

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