Caregivers: Boost Your Well-Being

Parkinson’s and Other Family Caregivers:

Let Go of Stress and Boost Your Well-Being

If you are a family caregiver,
especially if you are caring for
someone in the last stages of Parkinson’s,
you’re probably feeling:

*stressed out
*frustrated
*exhausted
*guilty
*angry

I know, because I feel the same way.
Let’s see if there’s a solution!

As someone who is caring for a husband
with late stage Parkinson’s and an aging mother,
I too face the challenges of being a
family caregiver.

Since September is Healthy Aging Month,
I want to share some of what I have learned
over a lifetime of being a
pioneer in alternative approaches
to health and well-being,
of creating traditions instead
of following  traditions.

In honor of Healthy Aging Month,
I am conducting a free conference
call for Parkinson’s and others
in Family Caregiver roles.

Together, we’ll consider the solutions for the guilt,
exhaustion, anger, stress, and overwhelm that are the
daily hallmarks of family caregivers. We’ll look at
some simple strategies and out-of-the-box ways
to give your health and well-being a boost.

Reserve SATURDAY September 18, 9 AM Pacific time!

To learn more details about the content of our call
and to reserve your place on the free conference call,
go to this special invitation page on my web site:

www.authorbettylsmith.com/caregivers-preview/

There’s a space to sign up with your name and email
at the BOTTOM of that page. Fill in those two boxes
and click the “Register” button to reserve
your space for the call, and you will receive
the phone number and access code to call
on Saturday morning, September 18, 9 AM Pacific time.

I look forward to sharing with you some
approaches for exploring the Final Frontier of Health
and Well-Being.

Hope to hear you on the call on
Saturday, September 18 at 9 am Pacific.

Remember: Sign up at the BOTTOM of this page
and click the button that says “Register.”

http://www.authorbettylsmith.com/caregivers-preview/

To your health and well-being,
Your friend,
Betty L. Smith

P.S.  You know it’s important to take time out for
yourself. This is a perfect time to find out some
nontraditional ways to boost your well-being.

P.P.S. Please sign up even if you can’t be on the call
live. We will send you a recording of the call at no
cost so that you can listen at your own schedule.

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Appreciate Your Loved Ones — Beyond Older Americans Month

Did you miss May’s “celebration” of Older Americans’ Month?  While May has been Older Americans Month since 1963, (The name was changed by President Carter in 1980, from Senior Citizens Month.) I’m not sure what good that does for Family Caregivers. It just reminds us that we are all getting older.  And so are our loved ones. No one likes that.

I know first-hand the heartache and stress that is involved in being a family caregiver. I have a mother, age 95 this summer, who lives in a nursing home. I have a husband who was diagnosed with Parkinson’s in 2003 and went into a convalescent home in August of 2009. What is there to celebrate?

With nearly 40 million people age 65 and over, (reportedly 38.9 million on July 1, 2008, according to the U.S. Census), it’s a good bet that there will be a lot of family caregivers in the ranks, either presently or down the road.

Based on research put together by the leaders of the November 2009 Caregivers’ Summit, (or at this link: http://caregiverstelesummit.com/blog/betty), current estimates show that 50 million of us shoulder the burden of family caregiving. Most of us shoulder the burden alone and without adequate support.

As a family caregiver, I’ve learned the importance of keeping my own interests perking along as a way to combat the stress of family caregiving. With the technologies that allow us to connect to groups of people via our computers online and by telephone, there are resources available, including communities of friends and support like Boomer-Living.com, where I am a regular contributor.

Acknowledging Mike
I’m not a techie, so for the last decade, I’ve had my own kind of “caregiver” who has been instrumental in helping me keep my own interests alive and active.  Mike, my tech guru, came to my house to help me with my computer.  Mike’s work with me was the way I like to learn technical things–in person, one-on-one, hands-on.  He was older, retired, and enjoyed helping the older people in our community with their computers so they could be productive and connected to the world.

Mike was taken ill suddenly a few months ago. I just learned that my friend and tech guru, Mike, died.

So Mike is my lesson for Older Americans Month. Not one of us is getting any younger, but that’s no reason to put bags over our heads and hope time starts running backwards. It won’t.

I want to honor and celebrate Mike. His kindness and generosity, his knowledge and tech skills, his caring and abilities have opened the door for me to participate here at my blog and at sites like Boomer-Living.com, along with other classes, coaches, and resources online. I wouldn’t be where I am without his help.

Appreciate!
May has passed, but it’s always a good time to appreciate.  I hope you will take the time from caregiving and all its stresses to simply appreciate your loved ones of all ages who will not be around forever.

Your simple mindful act of appreciating your loved ones and other important people in your life — just as they are — opens powerful healing energies. Appreciate everyone in your life — your loved ones, friends, family, neighbors and even your tech guru — not only during Older Americans Month, but every day of every month.

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Caregiver News: Cultural Conditioning Separates Us from our Inner Selves

Dr. Milton H. Erickson, 1901-1980, a psychiatrist and hypnotist, was one of the 20th century’s great innovators in psychotherapy.  Erickson noted that, “Patients are patients because they are out of rapport with their own unconscious. Patients are people who have had too much programming, so much outside programming that they have lost touch with their inner selves.”

As a lifelong learner and someone on my own inner healing journey, and now as a family caregiver to my husband who has Parkinson’s, I have come to appreciate the importance of what Dr. Erickson pointed out to us in the quote above. I have lived it and experienced it. I have observed the results of this toxic outside programming on my own loved ones and clients, as they struggle with the degenerative diseases of aging.

The self-healing work I have done in dealing with my own past toxic emotions (that grew out of negative cultural conditioning) has helped me get in touch with my inner knowingness, what Dr. Erickson calls our “inner selves.” This has been a gift I’ve been able to share with my clients and loved ones over the years.  After my time as a pioneering woman business owner and selling directly to small businesses, I have developed my practice as a Personal Life Coach since 1989.

I am creating a tele-seminar series to share what I have learned from my own experience, research, education, and observation about how our cultural conditioning separates us from our inner selves.  In the classes offered by telephone, I will share the steps we can take to connect with our inner selves.

Right now, I am mapping out the content of a free introductory call that will take place in September. The firm date will be coming soon. I will let you know in an email message and also post it on the “Caregiver News” category on my website at www.authorBettyLSmith.com.

The free report at my website (How To Be Your Own Authority) can be downloaded when you sign up in the box at the top of the right column. This workbook will support you in starting your journey. You’ll gain a personal understanding of how cultural conditioning separates you from your inner self and what you can do to reconnect with your inner wisdom.

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Parkinson’s Caregiver Discusses Being Your Own Authority

Author and Parkinson’s caregiver, Betty L Smith, met Dr. Kashonia Carnegie through The Soft Sell Marketers Association, an organization created by Judith Sherven, PhD and Jim Sniechowski, PhD. Kashonia, a moral and environmental philosopher who works from her home in the mountains in rural Far North Queensland in Australia, has created a community of like-minded colleagues at Raising Love Consciousness. Every month or so, she enters into conversation with her community members. The following link is an excerpt of Betty’s conversation with Kashonia in December 2009.

Betty shares her story of coming to learn how to listen to her own inner knowingness and to be her own authority, both of which are crucial skills for family caregivers who want to maintain their health and well-being.

Click the text below. It’s a link to bring up the recording so you can listen right on your computer.

Family Caregiver Betty L Smith Joins Kashonia Carnegie 12-15-2009

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Hello family caregivers!

Welcome to family caregivers. If you are on a lifelong healing journey for yourself or your loved one, then this site will offer some alternatives for your lifelong learning around taking care of yourself as a caregiver and exploring the last frontier in health and well-being.  My name is Betty L Smith, author of The Power to Change. I am a family caregiver to my husband with Parkinson’s and my elderly mother, along with being a lifelong learner. I look forward to sharing lessons from my healing journey with you.

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